Dealing with Rejection

Dealing with Rejection – 
Lessons to be learned from a baby

I am sure you have seen a baby in the crawling stage with their hands and knees on the floor. What comes after crawling? The climbing stage; holding on to the legs of the tables and chairs. 

When the baby successfully stands up, he thinks he has conquered the biggest mountain in the world. Then comes the side stepping around the table and the bed. In this process, the baby falls many times, sometimes straight on his back and sometimes on his face. But what happens the next minute or the next day?

The baby stands up again (NEVER GIVES UP) and tries to take further steps to perfect his walk. He takes the first few steps of walking in excitement, walks fast, and falls again. He stands up and walks again – and again he falls – and again he stands up (PERSEVERANCE).  
Upon seeing this, the mom and dad hold the baby’s hand to help him walk (SUPPORT AND ENCOURAGEMENT). It takes a few weeks to a month before he masters his walk. If you have seen your baby take those first successful steps in walking, you must have noticed the joy and glow on his face (MASTERY).

Why does the baby not give up? Just because he has FAITH and knows that walking is possible. There is no giving up, there is no rejection. Repeatedly falling while trying to stand becomes a challenge for the baby. Ultimately, he masters his walk and eventually starts running.




So, why is it that we give up so fast when people reject us? “When you don’t give up, YOU CANNOT FAIL”.

Watch this video on NEVER GIVING UP :




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Thinking “Out of the Box”

When I read the following story, I thought of our DXN business and the struggle most of us go through in the initial stages and do the same thing over and over again with no result. There is always a solution to the level where we get “stuck”. Enjoy the “out of box” thinking story.

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Many hundreds of years ago in a small Italian town, a merchant had the misfortune of owing a large sum of money to the moneylender. 
The moneylender, who was old and ugly, fancied the merchant’s beautiful daughter so he proposed a bargain. 
He said he would forgo the merchant’ debt if he could marry the merchant’s daughter. 
Both the merchant and his daughter were horrified by the proposal. 

The cunning money lender suggested that they let providence decide the matter.

The moneylender told them that he would put a black pebble and a white pebble into an empty bag. The girl would then have to pick one pebble from the bag. If she picked the black pebble, she would become the moneylender’s wife and her father’s debt would be forgiven. If she picked the white pebble she need not marry him and her father’s debt would still be forgiven. But if she refused to pick a pebble, her father would be thrown into jail.

They were standing on a pebble strewn path in the merchant’s garden. As they talked, the moneylender bent over to pick up two pebbles. As he picked them up, the sharp-eyed girl noticed that he had picked up two black pebbles and put them into the bag. He then asked the girl to pick her pebble from the bag.

Now, imagine you were standing in the merchant’s garden. What would you have done if you were the girl? If you had to advise her, what would you have told her? Careful analysis would produce three possibilities:

1. The girl should refuse to take a pebble.
2. The girl should show that there were two black pebbles in the bag and expose the moneylender as a cheat.
3. The girl should pick a black pebble and sacrifice herself in order to save her father from his debt and imprisonment.

Take a moment to ponder over the story. The above story is used with the hope that it will make us appreciate the difference between lateral and logical thinking. The girl’s dilemma cannot be solved with traditional logical thinking.

Think of the consequences if she chooses the logical answers. What would you recommend the girl do?

The girl put her hand into the moneybag and drew out a pebble. Without looking at it, she fumbled and let it fall onto the pebble-strewn path where it immediately became lost among all the other pebbles.
 “Oh, how clumsy of me,” she said. “But never mind, if you look into the bag for the one that is left, you will be able to tell which pebble I picked.”

Since the remaining pebble is black, it must be assumed that she had picked the white one. And since the moneylender dared not admit his dishonesty, the girl changed what seemed an impossible situation into an extremely advantageous one. 

MORAL OF THE STORY: Most complex problems do have a solution, sometimes we have to think about them in a different way.

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Mid Year Goal Setting

At the beginning of the year, most people set new resolutions and goals. Most of us take a good start but after a few months, slow down, and the rest is history. Why does this happen? 

Because most of us fail to plan, and do not have discipline in our lives. There is no benchmark to check the progress every month or every quarter, and this finally results in failed plans.

Where are you today, 4th of July, 50% through the year 2011? If you are honest to yourself, you should know where you need to be standing 6 months into 2011. 

If you are halfway to achieving your 2011 goal, then you are doing good, if you are more than half towards achieving your 2011 goal, you are doing great. But if you are less than half way, you need to re-evaluate and plan and make a new goal for the coming 6 months. 

Please ask yourself, the following questions and re-energize your commitment : 
1) Goals are dreams with deadlines. Did you write your goals with specific time lines? Are you reading them daily so that you are programming it in your sub-conscience mind? 


 


2) Did you plan your daily chores in advance, a night before or at the start of the day? 
3) Are you reading powerful, life transforming books each and every day? At least 10 pages related to DXN products or Network Marketing or Personal Growth, which will amount to about 300 pages of self development every month. 
4) Are you applying the content that you read? How much of your time are you investing with new people? 
5) How much time are you giving to support, train, and coach new and old members?


Wish you all best of luck for achieving your goals.











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